Conversations with Yeshua. This is channeled material, edited minimally for clarity only.
Jesus, Yeshua, I have questions and I want to hear well. I want to listen deeply and hear your responses, your wisdom.
Ask. You will hear.
Linda: I want to ask about children and fear, children and trauma. Children in our country are having to go through Active Shooter Drills. Many parents are distraught. There are so many things wrong with this picture. What about the children? What about their fear?
Yeshua: Except for the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises, children are born with no fears. All the other fears are learned through interactions with the adults or people around them, or with the world itself. We are going to lead you through some difficult territory here, so hold on.
In this situation, i.e. active shooter drills, there is the social issue of domestic terrorism, which is its own symptom of fear and separation. We will not address that at the moment, but rather focus on the playing out of that. Given that the children may be in danger, how do we protect them and minimize the damage, the anguish they may experience?
Let’s say you live in a community subject to wildfires and it’s a dangerous season. The school may have fire drills and rehearse practices that will save lives. This does not have to be done with fear, even though a real fire might produce some fear. It also is a separate (as if there were any separation…) issue from the dry conditions, the placement of homes, careless use of flames, etc. But if the teachers in charge are very afraid of fires, it’s easy to see the children will be influenced.
Fear is useful, for a moment, to get something to shift. Fear is destructive when it becomes a chronic condition. Anytime fear threatens to become chronic, it must be faced directly and examined: what needs to change to eliminate the fear? My state of mind? A social condition? An imbalance of power? An injustice?
These shooter drills can be taught and rehearsed without fear, by the adults. Yet those adults may have to acknowledge their own fears (in appropriate settings), and be prepared to deal with the fears of some of the children.
There are many situations in your world where you take precautions to protect the body from physical harm, yet you do it without fear. Seat belts. Fire drills. Insurance. Tornado drills. These are not harmful to children or adults if they are done without fear-based emotions. Beyond these preventive measures then, a community of people can look at the “why” of each of these. Do cars need to be safer so no seat belts are needed? Do buildings need to be constructed differently to be fire-safe? Do guns need to be regulated more than they are? And more.
So a parent of a child facing active shooter drills may share these questions and support: Do you understand why you are having this type of drill? Does it scare you? Are the teachers or some of the children scared? Tell me more about it. How do you feel about it?
Based on the responses from your child (remember, all responses are acceptable), you can offer additional information: A long time ago, children going to school had to worry about bad diseases that many of them got. But that’s not happening anymore, because we found some good answers. Right now, however, some very disturbed people are using guns to hurt other people, so we have to find ways to stay safe. Your school will probably NEVER have a real shooter, but if they did, you would know how to stay safe. Just like we fasten seatbelts in the car – but how often do we really need them? Still, we keep fastening the seatbelts.
Besides keeping your body safe, let’s talk about how to deal with your own fear.
At this point the parent – or teacher – should share ways they, and the child, can calm their own fears while still taking the needed action. That might be prayer. It might be a calming song. It might be a poem. It may come from your own faith tradition or might be secular, but must be powerful enough to resonate, and to stay with the child. Whatever you bring to your child, invite them to come up with their own resources – what they might bring to the situation as well.
Fearful adults can create fear in children.
Numbed-out adults can create numbness in children.
Dismissive adults can create confusion and fear in children.
Honest, loving and calm adults will encourage authenticity, courage and clarity in children.
There are answers.
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